Introducing the 4 Cocktails for Change
Once you know your signature cocktail, the next step is figuring out how to work with it, especially when life feels messy, uncertain or just a bit “off.”
Each cocktail offers practical support for navigating change in a way that feels aligned, not overwhelming.
Change in midlife isn’t one-size-fits-all.
Sometimes you’re ready to shake things up. Other times, you need space to reflect, organise or celebrate how far you’ve come.
That’s why the Cocktail for Change quiz connects you to one of four unique archetypes, each inspired by a stage of transformation I see again and again in women just like you.
But here’s the secret: most of us are a blend.
You might lead with one energy right now and find another one rising later.
Scroll down to explore all four and notice which parts feel familiar, surprising, or just what you needed to hear today.
The Bold Margarita
Energy: Courage
Zesty, confident and ready to take the next step, even when it’s messy.
You’re the type who doesn’t mind a little chaos if it means getting closer to what matters. You’re driven by values and a belief that action is where clarity often begins.
Key Strengths:
Taking initiative when others hesitate
Rebounding quickly from setbacks
Leading with instinct and passion
Thriving on momentum and real-world learning
Common Challenges:
Impatience with slow progress or indecision
Struggling to ask for help or pause to reflect
Taking on too much without realising you’re near burnout
Mantra: “Trying, even imperfectly, is still trying. And that counts.”
The Mindful Manhattan
Energy: Connection
Smooth, introspective and grounded in meaning.
You take your time, not because you’re unsure, but because you care about what’s true for you.
You find strength in slowness and space.
Key Strengths:
Deep self-awareness and emotional insight
Holding space for others with empathy and calm
Decision-making that aligns with personal values
Noticing subtle shifts that others often miss
Common Challenges:
Getting caught in overthinking or “analysis paralysis”
Waiting for perfect clarity before making a move
Feeling misunderstood in fast-paced environments
Mantra: “Stillness isn’t stuckness. It’s where my wisdom lives.”
The Sparkling Mojito
Energy: Clarity
Crisp, calming, and able to cut through the noise.
You crave simplicity and ease, not because you’re avoiding depth, but because your nervous system thrives on clean lines and clear paths.
Key Strengths:
Breaking things down into doable, bite-sized steps
Seeing what’s essential and what’s just distraction
Creating routines or systems that bring peace
Knowing how to reset with intention
Common Challenges:
Feeling paralysed when clarity is missing
Overplanning instead of starting
Struggling when unexpected changes throw off your rhythm
Mantra: “It doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be the next step.”
The Celebratory Cosmo
Energy: Celebration
Joyful, warm and a natural encourager.
You’re the kind of person who sees beauty in the little things and isn’t afraid to add a touch of sparkle to everyday life.
You know that progress is worth celebrating – even when it’s still in motion.
Key Strengths:
Cultivating joy in the midst of challenge
Uplifting others with your energy and optimism
Creating rituals and routines that feel like self-care
Finding meaning in the ordinary moments
Common Challenges:
Minimising your own growth while cheering others on
Avoiding the “messy middle” by focusing only on the highs
Feeling guilty about prioritising fun or celebration
Mantra: “I can be the joy and the work in progress.”
Working with your cocktail...
Once you know your signature cocktail, the next step is figuring out how to work with it – especially when life feels messy, uncertain or just a bit “off.”
Each cocktail offers practical support for navigating change in a way that feels aligned, not overwhelming.
- If you’re a Bold Margarita, keep your energy moving by choosing one small action and taking it, even if it’s imperfect. Book that appointment. Have that conversation. Say yes to something new. Bold doesn’t always mean big. It’s the act of moving forward that matters.
- If you’re a Mindful Manhattan, honour your need for reflection, but set a gentle boundary with your thoughts. Light a candle and journal with a timer. Take a solo walk with one guiding question. Give yourself space, but also a soft prompt toward clarity.
- If you’re a Sparkling Mojito, create breathing room before decision fatigue kicks in. Clean one drawer. Clear one task. Ask yourself, “What would bring ease right now?” and do just that. Your calm energy is powerful, but only when you’re not drowning in the details.
- If you’re a Celebratory Cosmo, weave in daily rituals that remind you you matter too. Write a list of five things you’re proud of. Light your favourite candle while you do admin. Make a voice memo to yourself that starts with, “I’m really proud of…” Celebration doesn’t need a crowd. It starts with you.
Let your cocktail guide you....
But don’t feel stuck in one glass!
The quiz result is just a snapshot, a reflection of where you are right now.
What really supports you through change is the method behind the mix: the 4 C’s of transformation and how they show up through the elements of making a cocktail.
Shake for courage. Stir for connection. Strain for clarity. Garnish for celebration. These aren’t just cute metaphors. They’re a process you can revisit again and again when life feels uncertain or overwhelming.
You might start with shaking things up – taking a bold first step by recognising you want something different from what you have now – and then find yourself needing space to stir gently, to reconnect with your values.
You might realise it’s time to strain out what’s not working and create more clarity. Hopefully you’ll begin to pause and garnish, honouring how far you’ve come and how incredible your life is.
This approach lets you meet yourself where you are. It gives shape to your inner work and a rhythm to your next steps.
Ready for change?
Want to go deeper with your Cocktail for Change?
I’m brewing up something very special: a 6-week small-group experience for women who are ready to make changes in their lives.
Whether you’re feeling stuck, starting fresh, or standing on the edge of “what’s next?”, this group program will help you reconnect with your values, find your rhythm and move forward with intention.
Spots will be super limited. If you’d like first dibs, pop your name on the waitlist and I’ll send you the details as soon as they’re ready.
(No pressure, just a heads up when it’s time to pour.)
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Hi gorgeous lady, I’m Tania
I jumped fully into my business after completing my life coaching training. I’d started dabbling when I hosted an online speaker series in 2021 called Motherhood the 3rd Chapter: How to transition into your 50’s and beyond with Joy, Confidence & Vitality.
Starting a new business in my 50’s has been challenging but taught me so much & given me incredible purpose again! I felt really lost, frustrated & like life was just passing me by in 2020 when my eldest was in year 12 and I knew there were going to be some major changes in my life.
My 3 young adults have now all finished school and one has graduated uni (she went to ANU so hasn’t lived at home for 4 years and sadly isn’t coming back to Perth, but the other 2 are at uni and living at home still)
I help midlife women who’ve spent decades putting everyone else first rediscover what they want next – and build the confidence to actually go after it, guilt-free. You’ve built a beautiful life… but somewhere along the way, you disappeared from it… let’s change that!
I do 1:1 work in standalone sessions or a 3-month series, host workshops both in-person & online. My work now gives me an outlet for my passion, a purposeful connection with people & my version of success – which allows me the freedom of choice.
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